My Experience: Before and After I Moved Out Of My Parent Home.
Have you heard the phrase "Adulthood na scam"? I have heard this word many times, even as a kid, but it is none of my business. The only thing I was concerned about was growing up so I could eat two meats like my dad and have my freedom from the eyes of my mom. Little did I know that becoming an adult comes with many responsibilities. After my university days were over, any little argument with my mom, I would say, "Just wait and see, I will soon leave this house for you." And did I leave the house? Of course, I did, but there are many days I want to run back to my parents' home and have a good rest because it always feels like heaven. With little effort, everything is already sorted out, especially food.
In this blog, I will share my experiences before and after I left home. Sit back and relax, and smile at your screen because I am about to take you into a land of imagination.
Before and After
One of the first realizations that hit me really hard after leaving home was that going to the kitchen to prepare your own food every day was hard. I wake up in the morning, do my morning prayer like the son my parents trained me to be, check my mail, and see if I have any tasks from the office on Jira, and when I am done doing all this, I am hungry. Normally, I would have heard
"Demola, food is ready. Should I bring your food or will you come take it when you are done?"
That was my sister's voice and right now I am missing that voice, and not just the voice, but also the food that came with that voice. I would walk into the kitchen, look around, and see if there is something I can easily prepare. If there isn't, I would just go out to get food or take my everyday bread and cocoa.
Another before and after was paying bills. What do you mean I have to pay for electricity? "Don't rented apartments come with free electricity? I have never paid for electricity before, and when my light went off, even while I was trying to blend some pepper for dinner, I thought it was the usual "Up Nepa" stuff that always happens, but I looked outside my window and I saw my neighbor having light.
I was about to call an electrician when I heard my meter making a beeping sound. So I have to pay for electricity. This is so unfair to adults.
Yet, while I miss all this about home and many more things, there are some things I am glad about. Staying at home would never help me grow because if I want to grow, I have to leave the comfort of my home. There are some things I can do now that I couldn't do before.
Before, if I went out, I had to be back before dinnertime, and dinnertime is mostly 7pm. I can't stay out that long, even if it is very important, but now I can stay out as long as I want and come back home anytime I like.
Another thing is, my mom is a lover of children and so many people like her in the neighborhood. A lot of people would just come visit her and talk with her on a normal day, and the sad part is that they would come with their children. Imagine three women who visited my mom bringing two stubborn kids each.
I would be in my room, trying to get some job done or sleeping then I would hear the sound of children running around in the house; sometimes their screams would scare me and I would have no choice but to stop what I was doing to check on them. I remember one day one of them came to jump on me on the bed. Thank God for the Holy Spirit; heaven was about to welcome a child that day.
In my own apartment, all this can't happen because everyone is living in their space, and no one is going to disturb you unless you invite them into your space. Besides, I have total control of everything happening in my apartment.
"Hey, hey, hey, go play in front of your house." It's as simple as that. That doesn't mean I don't like kids; I know one day I will have mine too.
Now, we have come to the end of the blog. I hope you smiled while reading it, and you had a good time. I did too, if you did drop a comment and probably a follow.
Thanks for reading. My name is Fashtioluwa.
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Living in parent's house can be somehow uncomfortable as a particular age. Especially for the males. It is not easy and that's why it is adviceable to become responsible fast fast.
Yeah
At an age
It’s not easy and there so much a guy would want to do in his own private space but can’t do it in his parent home
Lol funny one!
For real, the freedom when you are in charge is different and quite exciting but we can't help but remember the ease living with family when there was no much freedom lol.
Good you're coping fine after moving out, you can visit your parents and enjoy what you miss briefly, can't you?
I do visit and move back
When I miss home and visit them, they have this weird way of reminding me why I left in the first place
😂😂
Lol I totally understand what you mean 😂
That phrase "adult hood na scam" has deceived so many young people,not letting them find themselves something doing at early age instead of depending on others. Thanks for sharing sir
Thanks for reading. I am glad you can relate
Goodgretings bro, nice blog I must say. I would love to be regular here, afterall this bears the name of my dear Naija.
Pls can you walk me through what to do to have the tag "member" beside my username like yours.
Will be so appreciated sir.
Thanks
Good morning @ogeewitty
Thanks for the compliment and the comment. Joining the hive naija community on hive is not enough, you have to join the discord server then introduce yourself using the format that’s placed there.
There are other information you would see and once you have done it all, the membership tag would be given to you
Use this link to join the discord server
https://discord.gg/JZbHBGkS
Beautiful directive. Thanks a lot.
The thing is that I have already joined the sever months back, and I think I did that intro you mentioned.
The other information you talked about, pls where exactly will I find it in the sever? Infact I will like to be pointed to where to find everything involved, from the "introduce yourself" thing to other things.
Thanks a lot bro
Go to the Hivenaija community
You should be able to find their server there
Discord server
When you join the discord you will see everything
It’s easy
"The thing is that I have already joined the sever months back, and I think I did that intro you mentioned."
As I said above.
Thanks.
Goodmorning sir
Yeah
Then you have to be active on the discord. Tag me on the discord general chat channel, same username and I’ll reach you
Ah thanks for keeping in touch.
I'm off straight away to the general discord channel to tag you. I pray you to take it up from there.
Best regards.
Obrigado por promover a comunidade Hive-BR em suas postagens.
Vamos seguir fortalecendo a Hive
Indeed, the food that comes with the voice.... Hehehe
Becoming a Man you want to be or dream about, you have to move out from your comfort zone... Becoming a Man comes with a lot of responsibility....
This is an amazing post...
Thanks for reading and yes, becoming a man comes with many responsibilities
Asides paying bills, the first thing that hits any youth that leaves home to be alone is how to get food at all time. The reality hits hard that you'd be the one to buy the food with your own money, prepare it which is a very hard task for many, the time it takes to prepare good foods.
I like the fact that you go home at times. Many guys feel it's bad to go home when there's no other option, I understand that but it's once, family will understand.
Family will understand o
And they will give you a morale boost to keep on pushing
Thanks for reading
Family will understand, you get to stay with your people till you recover and get on your feet again.
Sharp
Best way to build. Family always and forever. Good family members sha o