Past reflections: my beliefs

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Over the last five years, I’ve experienced a gradual but noticeable shift in how I see the world, and myself. Some of the beliefs I held onto in my mid-twenties no longer feel like they fit. Not because they were wrong or harmful, but because I’ve grown. I’ve seen more, failed more, listened more. And through that, I’ve realized how much of our mindset is shaped by context, not truth.

One belief I’ve let go of is that hard work alone guarantees success. work ethic matters, but so do timing, access, relationships, and sometimes just luck. I’ve learned that it’s not just about grinding, it’s about aligning. Aligning with the right people, the right moments, and being honest about what’s actually working.

Another mindset I’ve shifted is around certainty. I used to crave it. I wanted to have clear plans, defined goals, and a roadmap that would lead me to “success” whatever that meant at the time. But somewhere along the way, I realized that being overly attached to a plan often led to tunnel vision. Life is too unpredictable to cling tightly to certainty. What I value now is adaptability. I try to stay clear on direction, but flexible on methods. Plans change, people change, and so do I.

I also used to believe that saying “yes” to every opportunity was the best way to grow. Especially early in my career, I felt like I had to prove myself constantly, so I said yes to everything. Projects, meetings, collaborations, favors. I thought it showed commitment and drive. But over time, I began to realize that constantly saying yes is a fast track to mediocrity and resentment. It diluted my focus and spread me too thin. I’ve since learned that saying “no” isn’t a rejection, it’s a form of self-respect.

Lastly, I’ve changed how I view vulnerability. I used to see it as weakness, or at best, something to be carefully managed. But I’ve come to understand that vulnerability is actually one of the most powerful forms of strength. It’s how we build trust, deepen relationships, and grow. Letting people see the imperfect parts of me has led to more genuine connections than any attempt at appearing polished ever did. It’s not always comfortable, but it’s real, and I’ll take real over perfect any day.

None of these mindset shifts happened overnight. They came from experience, reflection, and plenty of missteps along the way. But I’m grateful for them. Because the more I let go of rigid beliefs, the more room I’ve made for growth.

If you had asked me five years ago what I believed, I would have given you a confident answer. Today, I’m more comfortable saying, “It depends” and that feels like progress.