LOH CONTEST #145 - WOMEN AND THEIR FINANCES IN A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIAGE
I don't think there's a right or wrong answer to this question; it all depends on what the individual wants. Some people think relationships should be built on transparency and trust, so they tend to share everything with their partners, including their finances, while others don't agree to this.
Finance is a sensitive topic, and in my opinion, I don't think people who are not yet married are obligated to disclose their financial status or earnings to whoever they are in a relationship with. Since we are not sure if the relationship is going to last or not.
I know of a lady who was in a relationship with a guy she thought loved her, and she told him everything about herself, including what she earned every month. The guy took advantage of her, as he kept making unnecessary demands for money. Manipulating her with "he is investigating the money for their future". He later broke up with her and absconded with her money. This and many other reasons are why I would not advise a lady in a relationship to share her financial details with her partner.
However, in a marriage setting, it can be a lot trickier, depending on who your spouse is, and it can be very delicate, especially if you have a spouse who does not have the same spending culture or mindset as you.
Money matters have been the reason for marriage wars; they have caused avoidable clashes and wrecked many homes.
However, in a healthy marriage, women can share their financial details with their spouse, it all boils down to the type of questions that were asked during courtship and the agreement that was made, like whether to operate joint or separate accounts. what amount to send to the in-laws. What amount is convenient for charity? how to finance capital projects like building, purchasing family assets, etc. how to finance operating expenditures like the purchase of foodstuffs, gas, etc. When it comes to the issue of finance, no stone should be left unturned.
Part of your submission mandate in a Christian marriage includes your finances. However, if you notice that your disclosure of that information is causing a rift, then you should seek expert counsel, as your negligence of it would not be in your marriage's favor.
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Yes, disclosing finances in a relationship or marriage all boils down to one´s decision and I believe there shouldn't be any issue when there is transparency and trust. Still, I don´t consent to disclose how much you earn to a partner you haven´t been married to because you don´t know what might happen later.
Yes I totally agree with you, too many ladies have been manipulated and hurt because of this.
I agree with you on the aspect of not disclosing your financial status with one who you're yet to marry, it isn't so wise thing to do.
In an healthy marriage, of course your thoughts about having all stones turned is an important point to keep.
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