It is Now I realise That I Misunderstood My Father.
Children tend to misunderstand the actions and decisions of their parents until they are of a certain age. Most times, children never appreciate the efforts of their parents. Some do not see anything good in them. Some of the children just developed unnecessary hatred towards their parents. However, when these children grow to a certain age and begin to take responsibility for their livelihood, they then begin to see reasons why their parents made certain decisions. I belong to this category of people. I never appreciated the effort of my father even though he was my only role model while growing up. I grew up to see my dad as a hard-working man who strives to ensure that he provides for his family. Most of his decisions that he took spun from the fact that he was not financially buoyant at some points hence, he wouldn’t get me all that I demanded as a child. I remember how I would cry and develop hatred towards him. At some point in my life, I ceased asking him for anything because I knew he would not give to me. I saw him as stingy and unconcerned about his children’s welfare. I think that other of my siblings had the same monition about him. We all misunderstood him.
One of the things that I hated most about my father was the fact that he hated waste, especially food items. As children, we did not like to eat eba that had stayed overnight, so whenever we had some leftover eba, we had to throw it away. This could only be done in the absence of my father. Whenever he is around, you dare not throw away any leftover food. Also, we dare not allow food to get sour or else, we will get some punishment from him. We saw this action of his as hatred or dislike towards us hence, we misunderstood the fact that it was not easy to provide food for many people.
Having grown to the age of taking care of myself, I have realized that one of the hardest things to provide for oneself is food. As simple as it might appear to be, people spend the greater part of their income on food. Sometimes, all my earnings for a period will go for feeding alone. Hence, anyone who lives on a tight budget should not be wasteful of the little resources at his/her disposal. Children do not understand how difficult it is to make money especially if you’re not gainfully employed or a corrupt government official. Most times, they think that their parents do not love them that’s why they can’t provide all they need. Children under this category should have to apologize to their parents when they have come to the understanding that they misunderstood them (parents). If I have the opportunity, I will apologize to both of them. That can only be done by buying gifts and taking good care of them. Of a truth, I misunderstood my father.
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Many people are on this table, they will not understand until they become a father too...
Yes of course
We never get to understand untill when we get to that age.
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I believe, teaching children not to be wasteful is important, and it should be done with love, because punishing you for example gave you the notion that you are not loved. The economy today is not even friendly at all, let alone allowing wastage.
My dear... you're right
@newbreed, this is such a heartfelt and relatable post. I'm sure many of us can identify with misunderstanding our parents' actions and decisions when we were younger. It's beautiful how you've come to appreciate your father's efforts and values, especially regarding not being wasteful. Your story is a great reminder to be patient, understanding, and grateful for our parents' love and sacrifices.
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