From comparison to clarity: my break free story
A few years ago I made a decision to remove both physical and emotional clutter in my life, I cou see that the choices I was chasing too many things at once: trends, approvals and achievements, it all felt like noise. Being constantly busy but rarely feeling fulfilled.
So I knew I had to changed and I decided to change.
I didn't always know how to balance everything. I used social media to stay connected, to save memories and see updates. But with time I realized I was spending so much time being attached to Facebook and ticktock. I was endlessly scrolling and it started to affect my life, what I was seeing on the Internet was becoming unhealthy for me.
I felt my mind was crowded, I was always comparing my journey to others who share their "perfect life", I felt I wasn't doing enough. I was disconnected from the real world and the things I saw on my feed was becoming my driving force so I knew I had to make a huge change.
And I did change, I started to set boundaries for myself, it wasn't easy, but anytime I picked up my phone the first place I would go would be either Facebook or Tiktok, and before I know it so much time has been wasted.
So I made a decision to delete my Facebook and Tiktok till I can prove that I can live without them and do things in real life.
That decision wasn't easy. Social media had become a daily rhythm, it was my place where I felt seen. But I had to choose myself, to protect my peace and build. A clearer sense of myself outside of likes and stories.
It was strange, Quiet. I didn't realize how much space those apps too up in my mind until they were gone. But slowly that quiet turned into clarity.
I was happy that once again I could be reconnected with real life, my family, the real me, not in competition or comparing myself with filtered people. I focused on my creative works and felt really fulfilled, I was happy to be connected once again with myself.
This decision helped me to see the beauty in my own life as it is.
I returned to social media eventually, but on my own terms, I was no longer scrolling endlessly, I began using it more intentionally, and to even support my work and creativity. I now use social media, it no longer uses me.
Taking that break was as if I pressed the reset button. Now I know what true connection means and it's not about being everywhere, it starts from the people around.
It's not a bad Idea to stay away from social media for a while if it is affecting our mental clarity, or our peace or confidence. It doesn't mean weakness, it's actually wise to do so. It just means we're raking a pause, breathing and coming back every stronger.
Having recently come back after a year of social media detox myself, I resonate with this a great deal - I recognize that "quiet" you speak of. Strange place to find yourself, but oh so good. It's helpful to take the break not to stay away forever, just to recalibrate and find what you want from life. Glad you had that reset ;)
That is so true, that reset was needed hehe. Thank you for your time here
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True connection is not about being everywhere but around people who truly care. We are the change we need in ourselves, and if we don't do certain things just like you did, we won't move forward, and we will be stuck in comparison, which will keep killing us inside.