Opinion Series Part 5: Which Would You Choose: Your Career or the One You Love?
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Each company has its own way of implementing policies and managing employees. Some organizations enforce their rules very strictly, while others take a more flexible and relaxed approach.
The first company I worked for was extremely strict when it came to attendance, especially tardiness, since it was Japanese-owned. However, when it came to romantic relationships among employees, they were quite open about it. What I mean is that if two employees were working in the same company, they were still allowed to date or even get married. There were no restrictions regarding that matter.
However, in the third company I worked for, employees were not allowed to be in a romantic relationship with each other. In fact, this rule was clearly emphasized in their company handbook.
Honestly, it’s really difficult to prevent people from falling in love. When you work together every day, it’s natural to become close. Over time, that closeness can slowly develop into feelings that become something special.
A newly hired female employee was assigned to the Bohol branch. She was still very young, a fresh graduate, and quite carefree at the time, still learning how to manage her emotions.
Then there was a male employee who had just recently separated from his wife.
The guy was assigned to train the new employee, so most of the time they were together. It even reached the point where they would still spend time together after work hours. Perhaps the guy also needed someone to talk to since he had just gone through a separation from his wife.
At first, everyone in the office thought they were simply close because he was her trainer. However, after a few months, people began noticing that something seemed different. Of course, as adults, it’s not difficult to sense when there is something more than friendship. Even when reviewing the CCTV footage, their gestures and body language suggested that their relationship had become more personal.
Because of this, another HR staff spoke with the girl. However, she denied that there was anything going on between them. The HR staff then re-educated her about the company policy that strictly prohibits romantic relationships between employees. Despite several conversations and reminders from HR, the girl still continued.
Eventually, the CEO also noticed what was happening and requested HR to issue a Notice to Explain (NTE). It was only then that the girl finally admitted the real status of their relationship. In the end, she chose to resign from the company so she could continue her relationship with the guy.
In my opinion, if I truly loved someone, if our beliefs and views in life were aligned, if his life wasn’t complicated, and if I genuinely liked his personality, and if my salary in that company was small, I might choose to leave the company for him. However, if my feelings for him were not that deep and I was earning a good salary, I would most likely choose to stay with the company.
Situations like this are really difficult, especially when a company has such strict policies. What if you like the person and you also like your job? Choosing between the two can be very hard. But at the end of the day, if we are employees, we are expected to follow the company’s policies.
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agreed but not agree to the implementation. It is common that if an employee marries a coworker, one of them must exit the company. The rule and the law state only for the marriage, not the relationship and it is solely to avoid conflict of interest in the organization.
If I am the boss there, I will fire both out lol.
The girl gave up so the guy can still continue to work in the company.
the guy supposed to be a mentor or a superior to pass down the experience to her.
if you put your point of view from the organization, the guy has done a major fault. new recruit is like a gamble that company takes, some say it is an investment in human resource, but it could end as zero which that's what happened there. Either Organization needed someone cheap so they took the cheapest, or they wanted to plan something long on her as someone organic in organization. The fact that they assigned someone else to guide, it meant the organization lean to the second one, they wanted to nurture that girl into a well established personal at whatever position she was at or would get later.
if the HR put two fresh graduates or non experience staffs together and they got into a relationship... that what we called a RISK in HR decision. If two people in different division or function, somehow grow a fond towards each other, that's what we call human interaction, none knows where it would go
But if you put an experience one to guide his juniors, and that one knew the rule and policy, and still he got into relationship with the junior in a short timeline. He forgot his priority there, He failed to draw a line between himself to her.
and there is a say, which exist everywhere... Do not Shit where you eat.
It is the same as you send your kids to school then they get in relationship with the teacher because the teacher is too young...
If we strictly refer to the company handbook, which is what HR is supposed to follow, both of them should have been terminated because the violation is clearly stipulated in the handbook as grounds for termination.
However, in the Philippines, not everything written in a handbook is applied strictly in all situations. Decisions are still handled on a case-to-case basis.
There are business owners or CEOs who, even if they know that an employee’s action is a ground for termination, still choose to be lenient because that employee is considered one of the company’s valuable assets.
In their situation, what happened was that the guy was only suspended for a few days because the CEO considered him an asset to the company. Meanwhile, the woman voluntered to exit, just so the guy would not be terminated.
Maybe she was really inlove with that guy.
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