Affordability, Control, Means & Discipline.
Everyone wants to get a certain level of affordability, but one of the biggest challenges that comes with it is the inability to foster control. There was a time in my life when I felt that discipline was easy to maintain and establish, but this was a result of the level of exposure and experience that I had. The world is a marketplace, everything has a price and the ability to activate the price of the things that used to be beyond your reach can make you lose your discipline.
Pricelessness is an illusion
.......and this is because I believe everything we see has a release clause, the only reason why we're blind to this release clause, is because we do not have the right amount of money or bargaining power.
When people have money, all they can see is endless possibilities and this is because of the foresight that comes with having the right figure.
Now, this isn't completely a good thing. Having limited resources might create drawbacks, there are times we want to take action or make decisions that can only be backed by money, but find it difficult to.
Having "Less", Shouldn't Always Be Dissapointing
Deep down, we might feel a sense of loss and ineptitude, but what we don't understand is that not having money to fuel 100% of our expectancies, is a default discipline that keeps us in check.
Money is only a tool
We're the ones who attach a sense of rightness or wrongness to it. Some people have been in positions in life where they wished they were broke, and this is because they've spent the right money on the wrong venture.
There are wrong ventures everywhere in life, some might feel right in the beginning, but they only cost us more money and take away our peace of mind.
Craving & Affordability
There are certain comforts or pleasures that we always crave especially when we can afford them, but sometimes, the consequences that come with these comforts or pleasures can be bigger than the pleasures we derive.
It's in man's nature to want the good things of life, sometimes the ability to buy almost everything we feel like without going broke is a dangerous thing.
Being broke is being disciplined by default, nevertheless, money takes away all the discipline we have from being raised right, and if we do not develop the secondary discipline when we begin to make enough money, it's easier to lose control and put ourselves in compromising situations.
Learning The Hard Way
There are things I mostly judged other people for doing, but recently I found myself doing these things.
For a person who is always very careful and disciplined, I didn't realize how I lost that discipline, but then I realized that sometimes, we think we're in control, and the illusion of control makes people venture into dangerous situations.
With a lot of means and affordability, control becomes jittery. Anyone can fall victim to the illusion that comes from control. There are situations we feel we can handle, only to end up making more mistakes for covering up for the mistakes that we have initially made.
For everything we can afford, it takes extra discipline to establish the choice not to
This is why I said that nothing is priceless, we only feel so, because we do not have what it takes.
The point is, that we mostly make the mistake of thinking that we're in control when we're not. That's the arrogance that comes with affordability.
When people have the backing that comes with money, it makes them take risks that might be too consequential. However, when the consequences of risk seem minimal, we develop a certain arrogance that might lead to financial hubris.
Money Invention: Make Or Mar?
Humans (we) made money and gave it the highest level of affordability, in fact with more sophistication, we're heading into a future, where money can do almost anything, but this unlimited level of achievability and accessibility can make man's most illustrious invention (money) to un-make them.
At the end of the day, I feel that people are the ones who can foster the discipline to stay in control when they begin to have the means to activate the price of the things they can.
It's possible to make mistakes that feel uncorrectable when it comes to money, however, the hope is to never learn by experience when it comes to money. Sometimes, learning by experience takes away the chance of ever having to learn again.
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Nice job bro 🙂👍 one and very educative..
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We can only discipline ourselves if we make the right rules, you know that as a person you should have your own rules? That way you can be diligent in whatever you do
Yeah, there's never discipline without the appropriate rule to guide a person.
Yes that is correct .
I am glad you said money is just a tool in our hands and some times people use it for unrealistic things and it isn't nice.
...and this is why I believe in discipline. It has to come to play when we spend.
Yes, money is mostly a tool, it's a man-made invention and most of the time, all the power and sovereignty we see or attach to it, is mostly given to it by us.
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I will start by this popular saying," you don't know someone real character until they have money." I like your narrative that money can be tempting as it can make someone forgets their discipline. I laugh at times when i see people blaming another person particularly those that just bought car. People will be like, " why can't he use his number for something else instead of buying a car." As if we they were the one that make it big like the person they have counsel. There is no possibility that they will do otherwise. I will End by sayin we should just cut our cloth according our the material available and hope for the best by working it out through endless effort.
Jose has gone deeply into the foundation of failure. Thanks for levitating my spirit. This is very saturating! The last part really caught me, well I'll come back to that. Trust me, this psychology is very real and true. Control and affordability is the toughest thing to balance with Disciple. Few will credit this but trust me as soon as we welcome this, the more we get freed from it.
Craving for big things isn't the problem, getting in control is bad, and affordability is the worst realm to attain. But the issue can you maintain the power that comes from it. See, the discipline and experiences that come from ten years of poverty can't solve it. It will only curb it to an extent. This is where we will understand discipline have degree, the discipline that comes from experiences and sophistication is measurable. Guess, the only key that unlocked this, is to know discipline isn't achieved once or in ten years. We get more disciplined when we're intentional about it.
Power(control and affordability) comes with an illusion that the level of our discipline is okay. I have once been in this situation before when I started making it big at 25 after several failures, so I thought I was in that position where I'm the most Disciplined and strategic but, God is good, by setting a trap to learn this I'm ruled by power and the spirit of control.
Please, let me stop here cause I might write 10 pages of a book on this topic. Thanks so much Jose. This is another beautiful topic.
There are traps everywhere in life. I tell you, there's a level of arrogance that comes when one thinks they're in control. I feel that the level of discipline of everyone no matter how solid it is can only be tested by more affordability. I've seen first hand what affordability can do. Without experience, people can brag that they have control over the affairs of their life, but having excessive freedom and the will to wield it without taking cognisance of the danger of consequences can be very dangerous.
Thanks for your amazing reflection, I was equally lost in it, trying to understand your POV and allowing it to sink in.
PS: sorry for my late reply again, I'm caught up in this overwhelming commitment that's threatening my social time
Just the veracity of the whole matter,very accurate!......yeah,I totally understand. Thanks
Money can make or Mar people depending on how they serve or use it. Some people totally lose it when they have a lot of money, they just loose control and misuse it, lavish it on things that seem not necessary.
Some people may judge others who lavish money but until they themselves are wealthy, the real character shows; like a popular Nigerian adage that says: you do not know the attitude of people until they have money.
People should learn how to discipline themselves when they are blessed with money and reduce wastage but if you are not rich yet, be content with what you have while working harder to achieve more of it.
Well, I use to judge people who are wealthy for being stingy to others and extremely ostentatious to themselves and their family. However we can never complexly understand a situation until we're there: wear the shoes, bear the burden and see through the perspective of these people and imagine if we wouldn't be doing the same thing as them.
Money can make or mar people, sometimes you don't even know the effect it's having on you, because it blinds you. You don't see clearly and some of the times, getting back from the consequences can be difficult.
I think discipline is something people learn and there are quite a few things where I have made mistakes. As for how much control we have, I think we do have quite a bit unless it's something essential (rent, food, utilities).
Well yeah, discipline is mostly learned, from all works of life. Some of the experience we have, the mistakes we make are the reasons why we actually choose to foster discipline.
In today's era of inflation, it is beneficial to keep things under control, otherwise we can never live a proper and good life here, because here in Pakistan every 15 days, the price of petrol increases. It is done and due to which everything else is increasing and today the income is very low and one has to live within it.