Let them know

Something was trending on Twitter a few days ago about a guy who paid someone's house rent, and when the person wanted to express gratitude, she said, “Thanks.” Some people were bashing this girl, while some people supported the lady, saying that she didn’t have to say more than that and that she could not worship the guy because he helped her pay her rent. I want to share my view on this because I think this is one of the things that are very common in our society. 

I don’t know about every other part of the world I want to talk about my own country Nigeria because things are not easy. Things might be easy for some people in another part of the world but things are not easy here and I’ve been in a situation where I was opportune to tip people with small amounts of money and the way they say thank you makes me so emotional. This is because what I thought was a small thing meant a lot to them, and some of these people were working class.

This brings me to my first view about this trend that people who don’t appreciate small gestures and not talk about paying rent are people who don’t value money and you cannot value money when you’re not working for it.

Imagine somebody helped you to pay your house rent for a whole year freeing you from the burden and hard work to pay for a whole year's rent and the next thing you could tell them is “thanks”. I’m also saying that you should worship them, but there are ways in which you can express your gratitude because you have to express your gratitude to let the other person know that you appreciate what they have done for you, not you making them feel as if they have done the wrong thing.

People feel small help is not enough and they won’t express their gratitude well. People will appreciate you in such a way that you might regret your actions.  Some people will even tell you “T” and all these things are very bad. Next time, when people who will appreciate this kind gesture need help may not see help because of people like you who don’t give proper appreciation.

You have to let the helper know that you are grateful no matter how small it is.

Most of the people who don’t appreciate financial help are people who are not responsible. If you are responsible, and you have people who are kind enough to pay part of your bills or your rent, you will appreciate them because you know how long and how much you have to work before you can pay for it. A lot of people have the power to help but choose not to help if you’re lucky enough to find people in your life who are willing to help you don’t let them feel bad about it. Try as much as possible to show gratitude and don’t be an ingrate by saying “T” as a form of expressing gratitude.

Thanks for your time.