Don't inherit their enemies

One of the things that I realize is common among people is that because they are friends with you they want you to inherit their enemies. I understand that when you see the people you love or you are close to talking to someone you don't like it makes you feel sad but this doesn’t mean that it is a must that they become your enemy. Things don’t work between you and your enemy, but that doesn’t mean it won’t work between your friend and that person.

 I believe that relationship should be defined, if you’re in a relationship with someone that you share all your secrets with or things that you know if it gets out will affect your business or your personal life and the friend you are keeping is talking to people that you consider enemy or forming a relationship close with people that you consider enemy you might need to choose another friend. If you’re in a line of business that doesn’t require secrecy you should just let them live their life without any problem.

Are you sure that they are your enemy or do you have misunderstanding with them?

One of the things that people don’t define right is the enemy and misunderstanding. You can have a misunderstanding with anybody, your friend, family even your parents. This is because nobody is perfect and misinterpretations are bound to happen and even if misunderstandings lead to a direction of us not talking again I shouldn’t stop people from talking to you. The fact that you have a misunderstanding with me doesn’t mean that you have a misunderstanding with another person, things don’t work like that, and this doesn’t mean that our relationship cannot still work later in the future.

Misunderstanding is different from an enemy. When you are close to someone and they are also trying to get close to your enemy, it is bad. Remember the word enemy; you must divine them very carefully. When people try to stop you from making friends with those with whom they have a misunderstanding, it isn’t right, but when they try to stop you from making friends with their enemy, it is another thing entirely because the enemy is different. You should not make friends with your friend's enemy.

Don’t

You must never inherit anybody’s grudge towards someone, but you should try as much as possible to stay away from the enemy of your friend. If your closest friend has an enemy, try to stay away from the enemy because the enemy has to do with life and death and you don’t want to be in the middle of people who are trying to kill each other.  I will tell you not to inherit people‘s enemies but you must know when to draw the line. There are some of your friends' enemies that you must stay away from, it is good for you and your friends.

Thanks for your time.