Making The Rules Clear At First.

Failing to set boundaries is one of the big mistake people make when they involve themselves in something new.

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Meeting someone at first and trying to set some boundaries can sometimes not be the right thing to do , especially when you have barely know who the person truly is. But setting of rules and boundaries at first can be very helpful at the long run.

Let me share a story, I once met my former classmates in high school during my college days and we were happy to meet each other again. We were getting along and trying to know how each other was doing.

After much interaction with my friend we discovered we had the same issues and that was accommodation. My friend decided we stay together and I agreed.

My friend turned my roommate. At first we were getting along and everything was seen to be going well, but as time goes on somethings were not well.

When I said somethings were not going well was that the our true characters started to surface. Some of the things my roommate did that seemed normal to him was not ok for me and vice versa.

We were just freely doing what we like because there was no boundaries and rules between us.

My roommate was used to eating and keeping the dishes to be washed later, why mine was to be washed immediately. There were other things that we weren't agreeing to.

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I called my friend one day and decided we make rules to ensure things are done orderly, to my surprise he agreed without ever feeling I wanted to control or impose rule on it.

We decided to make our do's and don't clear and written. Although things weren't perfect, but from that day I would say things really changed for good.

It is better to set your rules and boundaries at the start of any relationship you find yourself instead of making the rules in between because it may not be favorable to the other party.

Rules makes people more discipline.