MY MENTAL HEALTH FIRST.

Marriage is a beautiful blessing from God. I believe that God meant well for us when he included marriage after creation. He never wanted people to go their seperate ways after some years of marriage. This is all the plan of the evil one who never want anything good for us.

Before two people come together in the name of marriage, there must be this strong affection for each other that made them come together as husband and wife. But at the long run, things begin to go the wrong way which leads to divorce in marriage. During the days of our fathers, divorce was never an option, but today, most people can't stay together for a long time. Before you realize what is happening every one is already talking about going their separate ways. Hmmm! Well, I don't support divorce and will never support it. But not when it has to do with someones life. No no no. This is unacceptable. We can't just say because we don't support divorce or because our faith is against it, then ask or advice someone to stay in a marriage that we know will bring their lives to an end before the end.

WHO DO WE CONSIDERED FIRST. PARENTS OR CHILDREN?

The children needs their parents to be alive so as to take care of them. The parents too needs their children to be alive and healthy so as when they grow older their children can take good care of them. Having said that, who should be considered when we talk about divorce in marriage? Because definitely divorce affects both parents and their children. But I think that the children stuffers more.

I believe that divorce should come as the last option for the parents. If there is another way of putting things in order and they all move together as a big happy family, then it should be. But what if they have tried everything and nothing seems to work for them? What if the situation is life traitnining? What should we do? Even though it is very important to put the well being of the children first, I also need to be alive so that I can take care of them. If there is nothing left to be done. Meaning that everything that should be done to keep the marriage working has been done and yet things turn out to be bad. Please I will advise they should go their separate ways so that they can both be alive.

I saw some videos and photos of a couple on the social media last year that killed themselves maybe because one person cheated or did something unforgivable. They should have separated. At least by now they will still be alive to see their children. But they never did maybe because friends and family kept saying to them - remember you have children that you both needs to take care of. Where are they today? They are dead and the children will still survive. Like I said earlier, I am not in support of divorce, but when the marriage becomes too toxic and both partners are no more comfortable with each other. They should do well to separate. It is not a do or die matter. Some have done so and got back together after ten or twenty years when their children are grown.

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Please 🙏 no one should die because of marriage because no man or woman is worth dying for. I can't die because I don't want my children to be affected. I can still device a means of helping the children while I am away from the marriage. Presently I have a friend that her husband told her to live his house or she will be killed. He said something like - it is either you live alive or dead. My dear what are you still doing there? Run for your dear life. A man like that can kill her in the middle of the night when no ine is the to help her. And all in the name of keeping her marriage. That is nonsense. Better live alive. Tomorrow you can come back for your children.