Life Experience Outside School

We have learned so many lessons in school which have helped to resharpen our lives. Although, the lessons we learnt outside school are more valuable and can teach us how to pass through life and how to deal with people. We have different people with different characters. Learning how to manage people cannot come from the school, but from outside school settings.

People think differently and they have different minds. So, dealing with them would be such a great path one has to trend on. Some are wicked and do not make you progress, while some are supportive. When we lean on people, we have two things falling back at us: hate or being liked.

Learning how to relate with people should be the best teacher or else, you will have yourself to be blamed.

My mum happened to be someone who loves her siblings. She was never doing things without carrying them along. I'm her family, she was the only one they know as she has been the only one attending meetings from her siblings' ends. All her family members loved her so much to the extent of giving her a plot of land. The land was located in the major place of our town.

Meanwhile, her younger sister has been someone who cannot even visit people. She has this habit of just herself and her children alone, forgetting the fact that without people one cannot survive. My mum always provided everything she needed in terms of food and money. My mum had never, for once, joked with her and her children. She had always catered for her greatly. My mum singlehandedly catered for their mother, my grandma. My mum would decide to borrow and pay for her sibling's debts rather than pay for hers.

After a few years, my mum fell sick. She was diagnosed with breast cancer. Immediately her siblings got to know, they started drifting away from my mum, not because of the support they would render, but the hatred they had for my mum. It was so glaring in their characters.

One day, I had to call her younger sister, but she said she does not know me. I was shocked by her statement. Her elder brother made this same statement. This made me conclude that we are just here to think of ourselves, but not for someone else. No matter the good you have done, there is bad waiting for you out there.

After much investigation, I got to know that my mum's siblings were angry about the piece of land my mum given by her extended family. My mum, on her sick bed, sent a message to her elder brother that they should take the land and let her be. The reply he gave shocked me. He said, "we don't need it, and we don't know you”. He had forgotten the help my mum had rendered to him and the others during rainy days.

My mum stayed for a few months and died. They did not attend my mum's burial. My brothers and sisters concluded that we would have nothing to do with them.

The one that connects us together died (my grandma). They sent us a message and were begging us to join hands together. Without us, they cannot carry out the burials. Out of compassion, we had to talk to each other and contributed greatly for the burial. We only agreed within that after the burial, they would be on their own.

Life is not easy, but I learned that even someone closer to you would be your enemy. We should always live to observe who would be our enemies. Although, it can be anyone. I also learned that when a problem comes, the only one to solve your problem is you. Depending on others cannot help. We also have good ones out there, but they are rare.

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